Have you made your "to-do" list for some of the resolutions you hope to tackle in 2013? Relationship expert Andrea Syrtash suggests that making a "to-be" list is just as important! For example, who do you want to be and who do you want to be around? Make your relationships even better in the year ahead by following her top three relationship resolutions:

#1: Surround yourself with people who bring out your best.
Time is limited, so why would you spend time with people who don't make you feel good? If you have friends and you’re constantly arguing, or you’re trying to convince someone you're dating of your worth, that’s not your match. So don’t just think about who the people you’re spending time with are, look at how and who you are when you're with them.

#2: Sweat the small stuff.
If you want to make big changes in your relationship, it really starts with small steps and gestures. People notice what you do or don't do, and those little things can end up defining our relationships. So don’t think in terms of “all or nothing” or you’ll end up with nothing! In fact, one study shows that for every negative interaction you have in a relationship, you need five positive interactions to negate it. So, keep depositing those positive interactions into your "account." It may mean calling a friend to say you’re thinking of her, or warming your partner’s car on a cold day. These little things go a long way.

#3: Disconnect to connect.
For my last book I interviewed an 85-year-old woman who said that the most important thing you can offer in a relationship is your presence – I love that! When we’re looking down at our phones during dinner, we’re not offering our presence. We’re actually saying, “The email I’m sending now is more important than you across the table.” Is that the message you want to send? I’ve interviewed couples who complain that there is no time for romance, but they admit to checking Facebook for an hour before bed! We need to know when to power off because disconnecting can be the key to connecting.

Here’s to great relationships in 2013!