Fill a tabletop fryer or deep Dutch oven with oil. If using a Dutch oven, fill 1 1/2 to 2 inches deep and heat over medium to medium-high heat. For tabletop fryers, preheat oil to 365°F.
Set up a breading station for meat: In separate shallow dishes, place 1 cup flour seasoned with salt and pepper, 4 eggs beaten and seasoned with salt and pepper, and breadcrumbs mixed with grated cheese.
Preheat oven to 250°F. Arrange a metal rack inserted into large baking sheet.
Slice the chicken and pork on a bias into thin medallions. Season chicken, pork and veal pieces with salt and pepper. Bread meats in flour, egg then breadcrumbs, and fry in small batches to deep golden on both sides, about 3-4 minutes. Transfer to a baking sheet and keep warm in a low oven.
Place remaining 1 1/2 cups flour in a bowl and season with salt, pepper and nutmeg. Whisk in 2 eggs and seltzer to form a batter. Dip and fry butternut squash, potatoes and mushrooms in small batches. Drain on parchment or a paper towel-lined platter and sprinkle with flaky sea salt while hot. Dip and flash-fry the spinach then the herbs; they will cook very quickly.
Serve fried meats and vegetables, spinach and herbs on a platter with lemon wedges for dousing.