Every day we're bombarded with sexual images in the media, but according to OBGYN and sexual health expert Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, that doesn't make it any easier for us to talk about the subject. "We’re still very uncomfortable about it," she says. "Despite what you see on television, people still have a difficult time talking about sex." Dr. Hilda helps a few brave audience members by answering their questions about sex:

If my husband and I wanted to have sex in a pool or a hot tub, what concerns would we have in regards to the chlorine or germs?

Dr. Hilda: "There’s always a concern about the chlorine in the pool and it getting inside [your private parts]. There will be that possibility, but it’s not harmful. The chlorine is there to kill any bacteria that might be present, so as long as the pool is clean you should be fine."

I just had my second baby and I’m just not getting back into the whole exercise thing - are there any extra exercises you can do to enhance sexual intimacy?

Dr. Hilda: "Absolutely! We’ve all heard of Kegel exercises, right? You can just squeeze and relax all day long; the more you do, the better your sex life! But you may not know that there are weights you can do with your Kegels."

Can certain foods actually act as an aphrodisiac?

Dr. Hilda: "There are no foods that will increase your libido, I’m sorry to say. Your brain is your largest sex organ, so anything that you think is going to increase your desire will increase your desire. So if you think hot chili peppers are going to light your fire, they will!"

My hair has started going gray so I decided to cover it. The problem is that I want the carpet to match the drapes, as they say. Is it safe to dye all over, and is there something specific that’s been developed for that area?

Dr. Hilda: "I hear this question all the time. Somehow having a gray hair [on your head] is bad, but having a gray hair down there is worse. And forgive me, but I don’t understand it; by the time he gets to that point in intimacy, he’s not worrying about the gray hair or whether you’re a natural blonde or red head - he has other things on his mind!

"That is a very delicate area and dyes are harsh, so there’s a good chance that you might cause some inflammation and irritation in that area where you don’t want to be irritated and swollen and inflamed. But for women who insist on it, I suggest that they take some plastic wrap and wrap up the most delicate parts and only put the dye on the top. They do have special dyes for down there that you can buy at a beauty salon or some pharmacies or that you can order online."

My boyfriend had a heart attack, and I want to know how long we need to wait to resume a normal sex life.

Dr. Hilda: "It’s a common myth that once you have a heart attack you can’t have sex anymore. That's a topic you need to bring up with the doctor before we leave the hospital after a heart attack because sex is good for you! It's an aerobic exercise and it actually strengthens the heart. [The waiting period] is usually two to three weeks after having the heart attack, but you do have to get clearance from your doctor. Most doctors will say that after a heart attack, if you can walk up two flights of stairs without getting short of breath or having chest pain, you can have a usual amount of sex.

"People worry that if they have sex, they’ll have another heart attack because the symptoms are similar: When you get very aroused your heart rate goes up, you breathe faster, and you may start to sweat and that’s what happens when you’re having a heart attack. So people are afraid, but I’m here to say, that is safe and you can do whatever you were doing before and it’s fine."

I would like to know about male G-Spots - do they exist?

Dr. Hilda: "Oh, absolutely! Most women don’t know about it and most men don’t know they have it. It’s located at the bottom of the prostate gland. You can find it the same way that his doctor finds it when he goes in to check his prostate gland, but most women are not going to go there. So there’s an easier way of finding it and massaging it." Check out the gallery photo to the right to see Dr. Hilda explain where the male G-spot is located.

[Photo copy: The Male G-Spot "This might remind you of something of anatomy," Dr. Hilda explains, "so right underneath here (don’t go too far down), underneath here you press on that area and you massage it and that pressure stimulates the G-Spot."

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