We've all heard about the dangers of teen "sexting," but could sending racy messages be healthy to adult relationships? Yes, according to relationship coach Michael Fiore, who explains the differences between sexting and romantic texting. "Those stories you hear in the media are really about people having an affair, people going outside of their relationship," he says. "What I teach is how to use the same technology, text messages, as a way to bring that spark, that intimacy, back into your relationship. It's this really private, little wonderful fantasy world for you and your spouse or your boyfriend or girlfriend."

Michael, who offers his relationship expertise on TextTheRomanceBack.com, says that because men are visual creatures and women are more about storytelling, the texts each gender sends should be different. "If you're a woman," he says, "you can text to your man, 'Do you remember the smile on my face last night right before you left?' It makes him think of that right away, he pictures that. To a woman, men would write, 'Can you imagine how good it's going to feel when I wrap my arms around you tonight?', because it causes her to image that."

Michael adds, "I always tell people to be unapologetically romantic in their texts; being in love is largely a choice, and this way you can just lay your heart out there." If you're feeling a little unsure of what kind of texts to send, Michael suggests using what he calls an "appreciation text" ... "You have no idea how much I love and appreciate having you in my life, but I'm going to show you tonight ... :-)"

Watch the video above to see what happens when one couple puts Michael's texting advice to the test!

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