[Got a parenting dilemma of your own? Ask it here](http://www.rachaelrayshow.com/club/board/show/2117/)! "It is always loud in this house," says Antoinette, who is raising a 1-year-old daughter plus four boys ages 2 through 10. "There is constantly fighting, wrestling, throwing things ... It's four boys against me!" In a typical day, the children leave their toys out, refuse to come to dinner and jump on their parents' bed. "I don't believe in punishing them," Antoinette says. "It's like torture for me. I don't want to be a scary figure to my kids. I want to be their best friend ... [But] I always question and wonder, 'Is there a better way of doing things?'" Rachael sends *The World's Strictest Parents*, Lisa and Cliff Bolton, over for a house call. "It's important not to let kids slide with poor behavior because our goal isn't just to have great kids, our goal is to have great adults!" Lisa says. Cliff agrees: "Respect has to be taught, in a good loving way, and it's important!" Get their tips below! **Use a sticker chart to reward good behavior.** If you can't get your kids to clean up their toys or complete other simple chores, you can motivate them by posting a chore chart on the wall. If they get their jobs done, they get a sticker on the chart at the end of the week. "The hardest part is going to come at the end of the week," Lisa cautions, "if they don't get a sticker they will be disappointed." **Write a contract with your kids.** Talk to your kids about appropriate behavior and your expectations for them, which could include chores, and ask them to sign a contract where they take the responsibility and understand the consequences of breaking the contract. **Replace the answer 'no' with other words.** Kids hear the word no all of the time, which means this word can lose its power. Try using positive statements such as "we can do that tomorrow" or "yes, we can do that later" so the word no is more effective during a moment when there is a safety issue. **Give time-outs when kids act up.** Send kids to a different part of the room and ask them to be quiet for a specific amount of time if they are misbehaving. "It's giving them that moment to understand that there is a consequence to a bad behavior," Lisa says. If that doesn't fit your parenting style, come up with another strategy. "All parents need to look inside themselves and say, 'What can we do that we feel comfortable with that's actually going to be effective for our children?" **Speak in a calm and firm voice when you discipline.** When you ask your kids to stop what they are doing or to share their toys with their siblings, pay attention to your voice. "If you're all loud and crazy in your household, you're going to have a loud and crazy household!" Lisa says. "Say it firmly so they know you are in control."